I don’t have any brothers (or sisters) and my father wasn’t close to me growing up, although he did his best to be a presence in my life and left me with an impression of a strong,silent man. He left this world several years ago, unaccomplished, in his eyes ,but never forgotten.
My mother did her best but had her own battles to deal with, leaving me to work a lot of stuff out for myself, one way or another. Over time, probably too much, I learnt a lot through mistakes and eventually through persistence to know more about myself. I also learnt to be comfortable with who I was and if not change the parts I didn’t like.
Part of that ongoing journey was discovering role models and positive influences. They came from various sources, Work in the form of managers and colleagues, Books, Films,TV both fictional and factual and more recently the Internet with its blogs,social media and video content and not forgetting podcasts.
As you navigate this minefiled, you have to make some decisions; what’s useful and what’s destructive? In the early days your influenced by all , heroes and sometimes villains but the danger is you get blind-sided and certainly when I was younger and up to my 40’s (late developer maybe?) I believed every media input.
What I have found is that you have to, like most inputs, take a brief pause before acting (not reacting). I now pick and choose my material,deciding what is useful and what to discard. The world of media is amazing, an unlimited source of information but i now remember to check what I take in and also to not spend hours getting sucked into the time stealer it can be.
Over time, I have built a small online network of brothers, who I take council from in various forms (they are generally unaware) and I think it’s worth mentioning them here. Nutrition: Abel James (the fat burning man) his podcasts on Palio and other topics are the foundation for good eating and its to him I go when I’m off the best nutritional path. “Manly” topics : Brett McKay and Chad Howse, these guys cover many subjects and are the modern day alphas. Chad is the online equivalent of a younger brother and Brett the older, he covers more family stuff, being a dad himself. Fitness: Spartan up podcasts (Joe and Co) the Spartan race family, all the OCR community. Spiritual: So many to mention, Anthony Robins, Jordan Harbinger, Wayne Dyer. I will stop there because it occurred to me there are many.
A more recent addition and influence in my life is Krav Maga, in particular the KMG UK Elite team. It’s early days but I get a sense there is much to learn here both mentally and physically. I believe I will get the tools to develop myself further, enabling me to protect myself,my family and others.
So you see, I do have brothers, both near and far, those who I can call upon to help me grow and learn, enabling me to be a better person for myself and family.
In this digital age, we have access to knowledge. Whatever your passion or drive is, you have no excuses not to follow them. If there is something you want to do or if your just not happy plodding along.. Do something, make a list , start blogging, start researching. Whatever it is your interested in, there will be a community which can offer a source of information. You don’t have forever… Not in this lifetime, so what’s stopping you? Doesn’t doesn’t matter your age. .. Just start something today.
Enjoy and let me know who your brothers or sisters are, who do your get advice from and what inspires you to take action?